Challenging Toddlers Part 3: 8 Ways to dodge a toddler meltdown

As we all know and understand, sometimes the toddler tantrum is inevitable but there are some ways to tame their tempers. As part of our ‘Challenging Toddlers’ series, we’ve collated some tips and tricks for avoiding a meltdown.

Give plenty of positive attention

Get in the habit of catching your child being good. Reward your little one with praise and attention for positive behaviour.

Try to give toddlers some control over little things

Offer minor choices such as “Do you want orange juice or apple juice?” or “Do you want to brush your teeth before or after taking a bath?”. This way, you aren’t asking “Do you want to brush your teeth now?” — which inevitably will be answered “no.”

Keep off-limits objects out of sight and out of reach

This makes struggles less likely. Obviously, this isn’t always possible, especially outside of the home where the environment can’t be controlled.

Distract your child

Take advantage of your little one’s short attention span by offering something else in place of what they can’t have. Start a new activity to replace the frustrating or forbidden one. Or simply change the environment. Take your toddler outside or inside or move to a different room.

Help kids learn new skills and succeed

Help kids learn to do things. Praise them to help them feel proud of what they can do. Also, start with something simple before moving on to more challenging tasks.

Consider the request carefully when your child wants something

Is it outrageous? Maybe it isn’t. Choose your battles; accommodate when you can.

Know your child’s limits

If you know your toddler is tired, it’s not the best time to go grocery shopping or try to squeeze in one more errand.

Be realistic

A toddler is a toddler. There is no chance that they are going to be able to live up to adult expectations of behaviour at all times, so it’s important to allow for typical toddler behaviour now and then. Let the child know that you expect kindness, respect and honesty – and model this behaviour too.


If a safety issue is involved and a toddler repeats their behaviour after being told to stop, use a time-out or hold the child firmly for several minutes. Be consistent. Don’t give in on safety issues.

As discovered in our earlier editions of our Challenging Toddler series, the world can be a frustrating place when you’re two. While no child is defined by their meltdown, being able to consider your child’s characteristics and understanding how to manage their temper can help you defuse the situation before it’s even begun.

“Kids are like flowers, each one is different, but special. So, whether your child is a playful poppy or a shrinking violet, love and celebrate your child for his or her uniqueness.”

Need more tips and tricks to avoid your toddler tantrums? We can help! Contact us today.

See you next month,

Weronika and the team at Aquatica Swim Academy.

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